Until we analyze how we see ourselves and our spouses, we will be unable to understand how they feel and see themselves and their world. Unawares, we will project our intentions on their behavior and call ourselves the objective, the principled, the matured ones.
This will significantly limits our personal potential and our ability to relate to them properly; to show them love and respect.
Nevertheless, because of the unique human capacity of self-awareness, we can all examine our paradigms on marriage to determine whether they are principle-based or if they are a function of conditioning and or conditions.
Stop capitalizing on all the imperfections of your spouse! that will only make you look perfect in your own eyes.
Despite all our weaknesses, imperfections, mistakes, etc, we can still enjoy our spouses, the decision is yours to MAKE.